When to Conform and When to Follow the Herd

conformityThe balance of school teeters on the seesaw of conformity versus independence. Up until high school, all we want to do is conform. After we graduate, all we want to do is find our own path. This constant push and pull between independent thinking and social herding is what makes taking a risk to do things our own way that much more challenging. Yes, following the herd is easier and some would say even safer. Deviating from the flock is much more difficult and a little scary because now you have to rely on your own discretion.

In your academic life, then, when is is okay to take a chance and do your own thing? (Click to view our video on this topic)

Let’s look at the example of writing a boring 20 page research paper on a topic you know nothing about and aren’t that interested in. Your teacher has given you specific guidelines, including format, page requirement, due date, and discussion points. There seem to be limited things you have control over. So where is the risk? However, what you do have control over may surprise you: (1) the research you use to evidence your findings, (2) how you structure your analysis, and (3) word choice. Ah ha! Word choice– it’s a bigger deal than you may think, and one that will separate your paper from the “herd”. Sophisticated language, voice, writing for your audience — all these creative elements add up to what makes your writing–your take on a subject matter– unique. Your ability to express yourself in language, both written and verbal, is the foundation of strong communication, convincing arguments, and leadership. If you choose, school can be a place where you go out on that limb and make a bold choice to be different, even in the strictest of circumstances.

The flip side of this argument is laden with the fear of persecution: “Will I get a bad a grade for going against the grain? I can’t afford to fail this class! What if my teacher just doesn’t get it?”. With great risk, comes great reward. With no risk, comes complacency. It is of course up to you, but I encourage my students to take a chance (no matter how small) and write just a little bit differently than the person sitting in the next row. Why? Because school is not meant to be purely academic; there is a life lesson to be learned here too.

So the next time you have a writing assignment that looks as if it will be end of you, remember that even where there seems to be limited creative control you still have the opportunity to embrace the challenge by taking a chance.

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Christine Terry, J.D., is the Founder & Owner of Terry Tutors, a Private Tutoring, Family Coaching, and Education Advocacy service dedicated to supporting the whole student. Want to Know More? Head on over to TerryTutors.com

Have a Little Faith

CoexistYour Weekly Dose of Honesty from Terry Tutors.com: At this point you probably know that I’m a little more than obsessed with SoulPancake. It’s just so uniquely uplifting and hopeful– celebrating rather than judging the different viewpoints we all bring to the same topic of discussion. And nothing can get more heated than the topic of religion, right!

SoulPancake’s web series, Have a Little Faith with host Zach Anner, takes you on a religious roller-coaster ride. It does not judge but rather gives you the knowledge from an insider’s point of view as a way to explore an ideology for yourself. I find this non-combative approach towards religion extremely insightful and relevant in our society and culture today, especially because more teenagers, young adults, and moms and dads are choosing to not choose religion. In general, The Millennial Generation (aka Generation Y born between 1980-early 2000’s) is the first generation to overwhelmingly differentiate between spirituality and religion.  So it’s fair to say that they are more likely to raise their children without a religious affiliation too. It’s a counter-shift in our culture that’s becoming more mainstream by the minute. Even The Pope is less concerned about what religion you adhere to and more about your ability to create peace amongst yourselves and in world as a whole.

Despite whether you think Generation Y and its successors are sinners or saints for creating their own creed, the fact remains that more kids are religious-less.  Their thirst for knowledge, community, acceptance, and truth, however, remains abundantly clear.

Check out these Have a Little Faith videos: quick, fun tidbits of one person’s truth. You’ll learn cool stuff too.

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Christine Terry, J.D., is the Founder & Owner of Terry Tutors, a Private Tutoring, Family Coaching, and Education Advocacy service dedicated to supporting the whole student. She writes this blog as an effort to help Moms & Dads Navigate Generation Z, Honestly. Want to Know More? Head on over to TerryTutors.com

Raising a Lost Generation?

Are we raising a lost generation? It seems this question plagues every parent, teacher, and therapist with worry. If you’re teetering on your answer, put on your critical thinking cap and take look at this amazing palindrome video. Its powerful insight will make you think twice about the importance of what we deem important and how this generation will grow up to change their piece of the world too.

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Christine Terry, J.D., is the Founder & Owner of Terry Tutors, a Private Tutoring, Family Coaching, and Education Advocacy service dedicated to supporting the whole student. She writes this blog as an effort to help Moms & Dads Navigate Generation Z, Honestly. Want to Know More? Head on over to TerryTutors.com